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those of you that have been paying attention to my activity on facebook lately know how I feel about this Personhood bill going for a vote in the house , it was just passed by the Senate. Some of you probably wonder why I even care since I have had a complete hysterectomy and it doesnt affect my body. Well , let me explain why it matters so much to me.
There are actually several reasons why I care about this bill, my own personal reasons are if this bill was in effect when I was in my 20's then I would not have my son Caden today, in fact, its a strong possibility I would be dead. I was married very young at age 22, it wasn't a happy marriage yet I became pregnant several times, each time resulted in a miscarriage, twice I had to have a D&C performed because I did not pass the fetus. I had to go to a abortion clinic both times for this procedure, once I had to walk thru a line of protesters that screamed ugly things at me, they even threw things at me. I wanted to scream back at them that I was not killing my baby, it was already dead and if I did not have this procedure then I would die too. But I did not say a word, I walked in with my head held high and ignored them. and then the same when I left afterwards.
Towards the end of the marriage I was told I could not carry a baby to term, that I had too much endometreosis and it had caused too much damage to have a healthy pregnancy, also I found out I had PCOS, which is a disease that causes cysts to grow on your ovaries, sometimes very large and very painful cysts, it also causes obesity which I am still dealing with to this day. PCOS causes every morsel of food you eat to turn to sugar thus adding the weight, it causes other problems as well. Like infertility, and a even higher risk of miscarriage due to both the disease and being obese.
A few years after my divorce I remarried, a few mos before we got married I went to a new Dr and begged for something to be done to help the PCOS, I'm a size small frame and had over 100 extra lbs on me, I also wanted to see if anything could be done to eventually help me have a baby somewhere down the road. I was referred to a fertility Dr who gave me a very honest consult, that it would be crazy to go through the time, pain and expense of taking fertility drugs when my weight made me high risk for miscarriage, and given my history that risk was doubled. So he sent me to a specialist that put me on Metaformin to help control the PCOS and to help me lose weight. I lost 30lbs almost immed. I got married on April 25th and on May 28th discovered I was 4wks pregnant!!! it was a long and stressful pregnancy, I went into preterm labor on a regular basis and my water broke at 20wks, they were able to stop the labor and determined at first that I must have had a high leak that sealed itself back. exactly 9mos from our wedding day Caden was born.
he was perfectly healthy in every way and to us he was a miracle. after an emergency C section they found that I had 2 amnio bags inside me, which means at some point I was more than likely pregnant with twins. we have no idea when I could have miscarried one of them, there is a the dissappearing twin theory. somehow that extra amnio bag stayed intact and leaked every so often causing us to think my water was breaking, yet every time they did a ultrasound it showed I had plenty of amnio fluid. They don't know why this never showed up on the DOZENS of ultrasounds I had done during my pregnancy. its a medical mystery. Caden used to talk about the "other baby inside mommy with him" so I do believe there was a second baby we never knew about.
If this personhood law had been in effect way back when I prob would not have been able to get that D&C and would have died. if I had lived, I would not have had the chance to visit Dr. Reshef about possibly doing fertility treatments or IVF because he would be doing his job in another state.
After Caden was born I had complications that caused even more damage to my reproductive organs, my high risk specialist Dr advised me to NEVER get pregnant again, that if I did it was a strong possibility that I would bleed to death without warning. So our choices were to abstain from sex even though we were a married couple, use birth control, or one of us have surgery. If our birth control had failed and I did become pregnant the personhood law would not allow me to end the pregnancy, it wasn't 100% that I would die if I got pregnant, just a large chance I would. somehow I don't think those odds would be enough for the supporters of this bill. and I would be forced into a life ending pregnancy and leave my husband, our adopted son, his daughter from a previous marriage and this new baby that I fought so hard to carry full term. How is that even sane ???
Now for the other reasons why I care about this law, my daughter is a young woman now, I want her to have final say in what happens to her body!! I also have many friends who have had children or are exploring IVF now. I have many gay friends that want to have children via surrogacy or IVF, or artificial insemination. I want the young women of this generation to have choices, they should not have to worry about their bodies being hijacked by the judicial system if they want to make an unpopular choice if they should become pregnant. I want them to have every form of safe birth control option available to them. and if God forbid one of them is a victim of rape I do not want them to be denied the chance to have a pill that will PREVENT a unwanted pregnancy offered to them and thus they be forced to relive that horror every day for the rest of their lives because somebody that doesn't even know them decided they should.
Whether you believe in abortion or not, you should be against this bill. it violates basic human rights. If we cannot choose what happens with our own bodies then how is that living in freedom?
That is why I oppose the Personhood bill.
There are actually several reasons why I care about this bill, my own personal reasons are if this bill was in effect when I was in my 20's then I would not have my son Caden today, in fact, its a strong possibility I would be dead. I was married very young at age 22, it wasn't a happy marriage yet I became pregnant several times, each time resulted in a miscarriage, twice I had to have a D&C performed because I did not pass the fetus. I had to go to a abortion clinic both times for this procedure, once I had to walk thru a line of protesters that screamed ugly things at me, they even threw things at me. I wanted to scream back at them that I was not killing my baby, it was already dead and if I did not have this procedure then I would die too. But I did not say a word, I walked in with my head held high and ignored them. and then the same when I left afterwards.
Towards the end of the marriage I was told I could not carry a baby to term, that I had too much endometreosis and it had caused too much damage to have a healthy pregnancy, also I found out I had PCOS, which is a disease that causes cysts to grow on your ovaries, sometimes very large and very painful cysts, it also causes obesity which I am still dealing with to this day. PCOS causes every morsel of food you eat to turn to sugar thus adding the weight, it causes other problems as well. Like infertility, and a even higher risk of miscarriage due to both the disease and being obese.
A few years after my divorce I remarried, a few mos before we got married I went to a new Dr and begged for something to be done to help the PCOS, I'm a size small frame and had over 100 extra lbs on me, I also wanted to see if anything could be done to eventually help me have a baby somewhere down the road. I was referred to a fertility Dr who gave me a very honest consult, that it would be crazy to go through the time, pain and expense of taking fertility drugs when my weight made me high risk for miscarriage, and given my history that risk was doubled. So he sent me to a specialist that put me on Metaformin to help control the PCOS and to help me lose weight. I lost 30lbs almost immed. I got married on April 25th and on May 28th discovered I was 4wks pregnant!!! it was a long and stressful pregnancy, I went into preterm labor on a regular basis and my water broke at 20wks, they were able to stop the labor and determined at first that I must have had a high leak that sealed itself back. exactly 9mos from our wedding day Caden was born.
he was perfectly healthy in every way and to us he was a miracle. after an emergency C section they found that I had 2 amnio bags inside me, which means at some point I was more than likely pregnant with twins. we have no idea when I could have miscarried one of them, there is a the dissappearing twin theory. somehow that extra amnio bag stayed intact and leaked every so often causing us to think my water was breaking, yet every time they did a ultrasound it showed I had plenty of amnio fluid. They don't know why this never showed up on the DOZENS of ultrasounds I had done during my pregnancy. its a medical mystery. Caden used to talk about the "other baby inside mommy with him" so I do believe there was a second baby we never knew about.
If this personhood law had been in effect way back when I prob would not have been able to get that D&C and would have died. if I had lived, I would not have had the chance to visit Dr. Reshef about possibly doing fertility treatments or IVF because he would be doing his job in another state.
After Caden was born I had complications that caused even more damage to my reproductive organs, my high risk specialist Dr advised me to NEVER get pregnant again, that if I did it was a strong possibility that I would bleed to death without warning. So our choices were to abstain from sex even though we were a married couple, use birth control, or one of us have surgery. If our birth control had failed and I did become pregnant the personhood law would not allow me to end the pregnancy, it wasn't 100% that I would die if I got pregnant, just a large chance I would. somehow I don't think those odds would be enough for the supporters of this bill. and I would be forced into a life ending pregnancy and leave my husband, our adopted son, his daughter from a previous marriage and this new baby that I fought so hard to carry full term. How is that even sane ???
Now for the other reasons why I care about this law, my daughter is a young woman now, I want her to have final say in what happens to her body!! I also have many friends who have had children or are exploring IVF now. I have many gay friends that want to have children via surrogacy or IVF, or artificial insemination. I want the young women of this generation to have choices, they should not have to worry about their bodies being hijacked by the judicial system if they want to make an unpopular choice if they should become pregnant. I want them to have every form of safe birth control option available to them. and if God forbid one of them is a victim of rape I do not want them to be denied the chance to have a pill that will PREVENT a unwanted pregnancy offered to them and thus they be forced to relive that horror every day for the rest of their lives because somebody that doesn't even know them decided they should.
Whether you believe in abortion or not, you should be against this bill. it violates basic human rights. If we cannot choose what happens with our own bodies then how is that living in freedom?
That is why I oppose the Personhood bill.
